Claiming Your Independence is Your Strength

As the month of July rolls in, two neighboring nations celebrate their existence and culture with Canada Day celebrations taking place on July 1st, and the USA honors its freedom from Britain with Independence Day. At EmpowHERto, we take this time to cast independence as our theme for the month. Let us take a deeper dive into what independence can mean on a more personal level.

Moving out on your own can be a daunting process, but you can do it!

It is common to have some anxiety when considering the prospect of ascending to the next chapter of your life: moving out and living on your own. Do not let your worries govern how you proceed in life, consider them, take note of them, but never let them control you. Remember, those are just negative thoughts, and you are not your thoughts.

Following these simple guidelines can help alleviate your transition into adult life. Adapting them to your unique situation is key.

  1. Sticking to a routine of any kind can help you feel more grounded in your new lifestyle. It can be anything from a skincare routine, cleaning routine, exercise session, work schedule, etc. If you are studying far away from home, let your school life and course schedule act as a means to guide you through your day-to-day activities.
  2. Having set goals keeps you on a clear path without feeling overwhelmed on what to do now that your parents are not there to guide you. Try not to set large goals. Work towards a gradual buildup as to not feel any disappointment in yourself for being unable to reach an impossibly high goal. 
  3. Face your fears and begin doing things for yourself. Over time you will understand that your inner strength comes from accomplishing the goals you set for yourself and not from seeking validation from others. When you begin doing things for yourself, you gain a new sense of freedom. You are no longer tied down to your parents’ wishes or a friend’s whims. Becoming financially independent also plays a huge role in this regard. 
  4. Creating new friendships and connections with those around you in your new environment can help you feel more settled in. Get involved with your new community! Do not be afraid of saying hello to your new classmates or getting involved with some social clubs on campus. When you go out to run errands, get to know the local business owners. Becoming a regular at your favorite coffee shop or local grocer can help you feel more grounded in the community.
  5. Ask for help when you need it. There is no shame in asking for help while still being able to maintain your independence. Remember that you are still new at this! Receiving some much-needed advice along your journey is the key to knowing better and eventually doing better. 

I leave you with these interesting articles on independence. I hope they give you the courage and inspiration to take on this new chapter in your life. 

https://www.dailyprincetonian.com/article/2019/03/conquering-the-fear-of-loneliness-through-independence

https://www.lifehack.org/443262/how-living-alone-can-make-you-a-stronger-person#:~:text=One%20of%20the%20main%20benefits,bills%20won’t%20get%20paid!

For more inspiration on independence, check out our article How to Prepare for College. As always, connect with us on our social media channels @empowherto 

EmpowHERto

Founded in 2015, EmpowHERto is a Toronto-based non-profit organization dedicated to helping 14-21 year-old women and girls reach their fullest potential.

EmpowHERto is as strong as the community that holds it up. Together, we can do more than we can do alone. Let’s bring our abilities and passions together to affect real change.

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